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Sunday, June 26, 2011

Justin Bieber Knocked Down In Undercover Cop Confusion In New York City (PHOTO)

Justin Bieber Knocked Down In Undercover Cop Confusion In New York City (PHOTO): "

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Justin Bieber


UPDATED: TMZ is reporting that Bieber was actually knocked down by an undercover cop who had lept to his defense when a crowd got rowdy; not realizing he was a police officer, Bieber got defensive, and his security team tried to pull the police officer away.



Things were cleared up, however, and disorderly conduct charges against one of his bodyguards were dropped. Scroll down for a photo, and click over to COED Magazine for more.

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Justin Bieber was jumped and knocked down by a man outside a New York City Macy's where he was signing autographs, ABC 7 Eyewitness News in New York reports.



Bieber, who appeared on 'The Late Show' in the city Wednesday night and appeared on 'The View' earlier Thursday, was assaulted after coming outside to tell fans that they would not be able to access his cologne debut and autograph signing; only fans who had waited in line to receive a ticket were allowed in.



When he stepped out, ABC reports, a man took him to the ground after jumping over a barrier; the teen star was uninjured, but 'very shaken up,' a source told the news station.



The man was taken away by police.



For more, click over to ABC 7 Eyewitness News.



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Natalia Vodianova Justin Portman Separate (PHOTOS)

Natalia Vodianova Justin Portman Separate (PHOTOS): "

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After months of rumors and talk of estrangement, Natalia Vodianova has officially split from her husband of nine years, reports the Evening Standard Magazine.



The news came buried in a longer profile on the 29-year-old Russian model, who has three young children with husband, billionaire Justin Portman. Natalia confirmed the separation, telling the writer:



'It's really sad. It has been a while. We didn't want to talk about it. We still don't. Our children are very much aware of it. It's OK. We're still in a very sensitive position right now, and trying to do things as amicably as possible, so I wouldn't want to talk about it at all. I don't think I ever will want to, because it's strictly between my husband and me.'



Gossip started swirling as far back as last August when Vodianova and Portman's marriage was said to be 'on the rocks' by a Russian newspaper. The mommy-model was later seen stepping out with Scott Douglas, whose close friendship with Vodianova had precipitated his own divorce from British artist Tracey Emin, according to the Daily Mail.



Interestingly, Natalia also told the Evening Standard Magazine that she harbors romantic feelings for someone else, responding 'Yes, definitely' when asked if she is in love. However the story doesn't name Vodianova's current flame, simply confirming that it is not Scott Douglas.



Take a look at Natalia and Justin in happier times:







Check out this video for a bio of Natalia:







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How to Talk to Little Girls

How to Talk to Little Girls: "

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I went to a dinner party at a friend's home last weekend, and met her five-year-old daughter for the first time.



Little Maya was all curly brown hair, doe-like dark eyes, and adorable in her shiny pink nightgown. I wanted to squeal, 'Maya, you're so cute! Look at you! Turn around and model that pretty ruffled gown, you gorgeous thing!'



But I didn't. I squelched myself. As I always bite my tongue when I meet little girls, restraining myself from my first impulse, which is to tell them how darn cute/ pretty/ beautiful/ well-dressed/ well-manicured/ well-coiffed they are.



What's wrong with that? It's our culture's standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn't it? And why not give them a sincere complement to boost their self-esteem? Because they are so darling I just want to burst when I meet them, honestly.



Hold that thought for just a moment.



This week ABC news reported that nearly half of all three- to six-year-old girls worry about being fat. In my book, Think: Straight Talk for Women to Stay Smart in a Dumbed-Down World, I reveal that fifteen to eighteen percent of girls under twelve now wear mascara, eyeliner and lipstick regularly; eating disorders are up and self-esteem is down; and twenty-five percent of young American women would rather win America's Next Top Model than the Nobel Peace Prize. Even bright, successful college women say they'd rather be hot than smart. A Miami mom just died from cosmetic surgery, leaving behind two teenagers. This keeps happening, and it breaks my heart.



Teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice tells them that looks are more important than anything. It sets them up for dieting at age 5 and foundation at age 11 and boob jobs at 17 and Botox at 23. As our cultural imperative for girls to be hot 24/7 has become the new normal, American women have become increasingly unhappy. What's missing? A life of meaning, a life of ideas and reading books and being valued for our thoughts and accomplishments.



That's why I force myself to talk to little girls as follows.



'Maya,' I said, crouching down at her level, looking into her eyes, 'very nice to meet you.'



'Nice to meet you too,' she said, in that trained, polite, talking-to-adults good girl voice.



'Hey, what are you reading?' I asked, a twinkle in my eyes. I love books. I'm nuts for them. I let that show.



Her eyes got bigger, and the practiced, polite facial expression gave way to genuine excitement over this topic. She paused, though, a little shy of me, a stranger.



'I LOVE books,' I said. 'Do you?'



Most kids do.



'YES,' she said. 'And I can read them all by myself now!'



'Wow, amazing!' I said. And it is, for a five-year-old. You go on with your bad self, Maya.



'What's your favorite book?' I asked.



'I'll go get it! Can I read it to you?'



Purplicious was Maya's pick and a new one to me, as Maya snuggled next to me on the sofa and proudly read aloud every word, about our heroine who loves pink but is tormented by a group of girls at school who only wear black. Alas, it was about girls and what they wore, and how their wardrobe choices defined their identities. But after Maya closed the final page, I steered the conversation to the deeper issues in the book: mean girls and peer pressure and not going along with the group. I told her my favorite color in the world is green, because I love nature, and she was down with that.



Not once did we discuss clothes or hair or bodies or who was pretty. It's surprising how hard it is to stay away from those topics with little girls, but I'm stubborn.



I told her that I'd just written a book, and that I hoped she'd write one too one day. She was fairly psyched about that idea. We were both sad when Maya had to go to bed, but I told her next time to choose another book and we'd read it and talk about it. Oops. That got her too amped up to sleep, and she came down from her bedroom a few times, all jazzed up.



So, one tiny bit of opposition to a culture that sends all the wrong messages to our girls. One tiny nudge towards valuing female brains. One brief moment of intentional role modeling. Will my few minutes with Maya change our multibillion dollar beauty industry, reality shows that demean women, our celebrity-manic culture? No. But I did change Maya's perspective for at least that evening.



Try this the next time you meet a little girl. She may be surprised and unsure at first, because few ask her about her mind, but be patient and stick with it. Ask her what she's reading. What does she like and dislike, and why? There are no wrong answers. You're just generating an intelligent conversation that respects her brain. For older girls, ask her about current events issues: pollution, wars, school budgets slashed. What bothers her out there in the world? How would she fix it if she had a magic wand? You may get some intriguing answers. Tell her about your ideas and accomplishments and your favorite books. Model for her what a thinking woman says and does.



And let me know the response you get at www.Twitter.com/lisabloom.



Here's to changing the world, one little girl at a time.




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11 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Children Do (PHOTOS)

11 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Children Do (PHOTOS): "

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The original idea for a whole book about dangerous things you should let your children do was a bit of a fluke. But after spending a weekend watching kids lick a 9-volt battery for the first time (at Maker Faire Bay Area) or reading about families who blog their way through the book (like the Johnsen Clan, featured in this slideshow) it's clear that what kids needs these days is... more danger in their lives!



Of course, I'm not talking about things that are life-threatening or emotionally scarring. However, kids these days are often hardly allowed the time and freedom just to be kids. How did you spend your summer vacation as a kid? Roaming your town with your friends, catching fireflies, sneaking into a movie, swimming in the local quarry, taking the L-train down to watch a Cubs game? And how do your kids spend their summer vacation? One week of soccer, two weeks at summer camp, one week at grandma's, one week of swimming lessons, two weeks at cheerleading camp?



'Fifty Dangerous Things (you should let your children do)' is an invitation to kids and parents alike to spend a little time doing something silly, fun, educational, and yes - potentially a little dangerous.



Take a look at what a few kids have to say about doing some dangerous things...


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Does Divorce Inevitably Damage Children?

Does Divorce Inevitably Damage Children?: "

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Most divorcing parents' greatest fear is the effect it will have on their children. These fears have their origin in a time when divorce was a rare event. Fifty years ago, children from divorced parents were commonly described as coming from 'broken homes,' and they had to live with the stigma that such a phrase implies. To compound matters, early research on the effects of divorce--which got a lot of attention because it was news--reinforced the notion that virtually all children were negatively affected, and for their entire lives.

There is no denying that, on the list of stressful life events, divorce ranks high. For children it represents an ongoing crisis that has the potential to turn their lives upside down. That said, it is possible for children not only to survive this crisis, but to emerge from it stronger and happier in the long run.



What We Now Know About Divorce

Early research on the effects of divorce on children, which drew a gloomy picture to say the least, were based on studies with very small sample pools and were limited to what children reported in interviews. More importantly, these studies failed to compare children of divorce to children from so-called 'intact' families, to see what if any differences there were between these two groups. For example, are teenagers from divorced families any more moody than teens from two-parent homes?

Fortunately, additional research on children and divorce has emerged. Included are studies that followed large groups of children over a period of years. The data collected by these researchers was based on observational studies and interviews that were conducted at regular intervals, as well as objective personality and academic achievement test scores. Moreover, the researchers were able to compare children whose parents were divorced to children whose parents were not. This research has led to a much clearer and more focused picture of the effects of divorce on children.

What the researchers found was that, three years after separation or divorce, the divorced children were, as a group, more similar to children of intact families than different. In other words, divorce does not invariably lead to psychological, social, legal, or academic problems. At the three-year mark, the majority of children of divorce appear to have weathered the storm, psychologically speaking, and are no different from their non-divorced peers.

As encouraging as these new data are, these same researchers did identify a minority--25 percent--of divorced children who were experiencing significant problems that would need to be addressed if these children were to get back on track, developmentally speaking. These included social, academic, and/or psychological problems.



Three Crucial Years

What parents need to know about divorce and its potential effects on their children are:

· The first three years seem to be crucial. Your child can emerge from the next three years a more resilient, self-confident individual. Your child is perfectly capable of surviving this upheaval, but will likely need some support and guidance along the way.

· There is some risk. Although three out of four children weather the storm of divorce (and may even emerge more resilient), one in four may stumble. Your goal as a parent is not to prevent your child from ever experiencing a crisis--including divorce. During the three crucial years, divorce affects children of different ages in different ways. Toddlers and young children are developing differently and so will react differently to divorce than older children or adolescents. In order to ease a child's transition, parents need to understand the developmental pace of their children, to recognize early signs of trouble, and to know how to intervene.



Critical Developmental Tasks

As a parent facing divorce one of your major fears about divorce no doubt is that it will leave permanent emotional scars on your child (or children). Parents worry that it will lower their children's self esteem, that they will feel unloved, that they will lose motivation to succeed in school, or that their idea of what it's like to have a family will be irrevocably stained. All of these fears are normal and understandable-- but they are not inevitable outcomes of divorce.



In order to provide divorcing parents with a developmental 'road map that they can use to understand where the potholes may be and help their children avoid them, I have defined the critical developmental tasks facing children of different ages. Armed with this knowledge, along with information of what to look out for during the three critical years, and how they can successfully intervene if necessary, parents can see to it that their children become the one if four who may be damaged by divorce.

Briefly, these are those key developmental tasks:



Early Childhood

The most important tasks facing children from infancy to age five or so are the development of secure attachments and willingness to explore the world around them. These are related to the extent that secure attachments--to parents and other caretakers--form the foundation that allows for exploration and learning. Divorcing parents who have young children need to be sure that these children are able to form and maintain strong and stable attachments. If divorce stands in the way of this process, a child can effectively 'stumble at the starting gate' of life.



Later Childhood

As children grow their primary developmental tasks shift somewhat, so that socialization and literacy become a major focus of their time and efforts. Schools play a major role in this, but so does the family. If divorce seriously disrupts a child's ability to form friendships and establish a place within a peer group, anxiety and withdrawal can be the result. Similarly, some children experience so much stress from divorce--particularly an acrimonious divorce, or one in which they are pressured to choose sides--that they are unable to focus on basic skills like reading. Research shows that children who fall seriously behind in these basic skills can have a hard time catching up and can in turn experience problems such as low self-esteem.



Adolescence

The primary developmental task in the years spanning from the 'tween' years through adolescence is the emergence of a personal identity: that sense of:

· Who am I?

· What do I stand for?

· Why am I here (what are my options for the future)?



Once it crystallizes our identity can easily turn our life into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Identity emerges from the teen's relationships: with parents, peers, and other influential adults. If divorcing parents do not allow their divorce to cut off those important relationships a healthy identity can emerge. In contrast, I have seen instances when divorce effectively destroyed a parent-child relationship, with disastrous results.



The above a snapshot of the key issues that divorcing parents to be aware of. Children are hard-wired to face these developmental tasks. To the extent that they can facilitate their child's ability to do that-- and not undermine it--every child has the potential to emerge from divorce a healthy and more resilient individual.



Future blogs will look at each developmental stage in more detail. Or, for more information, see The Divorced Child: Strengthening Your Family through the First Three Years of Separation







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Lady Gaga Goes Bald For 'Hair' Performance On Paul O'Grady Show (VIDEO)

Lady Gaga Goes Bald For 'Hair' Performance On Paul O'Grady Show (VIDEO): "

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With the caveat that Lady Gaga is an entire context unto herself, there's something more simple and streamlined about the pop superstar these days, making her more approachable, and sometimes, even relatable. Of course, wearing dresses made of Kermit the Frogs and meat set a high, nearly unsustainable bar for abstract weirdness, but still, for the most part, it does seems that there is something more human about the Fame Monster.



Aside from her adventure in church-bating Catholic imagery, in which she cast herself as a lover of Judas, both Gaga's music and message have cast her in a more gentle light. Simpler dance beats to her singles and a new, straight-played video for her song 'Edge of Glory,' mark her artistic statements, while her public statements have put her even further into the mainstream arena as a lover of all souls.



With her 'Born This Way' single and publicity campaign, Gaga has signaled again that she seeks to win, for herself and every other misunderstood soul, a normal, accepted human existence, regardless of gender or creed or, especially, sexuality. Her passionate speeches for LGBT rights, as well as her non-stop inspirational tweets, place her at least in the close exurbs of the mainstream, stripped bare of at least some of her eccentricities in favor of sincerity.



In that vein of stripping down from pretense to prove that she's human, Lady Gaga went bald in a 'Paul O'Grady Show' performance for her stripped down new song, 'Hair.' Perhaps it is only a fashion statement, but given the song title, it's unlikely, as she filled her piano top with wigs and took her own piece off halfway through. Perhaps she's saying something about shedding that skin, that costume, that barrier that she created with all of her vaunted costumes -- at least so that people know what she is inside before putting it back on.



The lyrics provide hints about that struggle; it seems that she's trying to prove that her hair, her costumes, her persona are normal. So by taking it off, showing the world her insides, she's proving her mainstream credentials, while still maintaining her built-up image.






I just wanna be myself,

And I want you to love me for who I am

I just wanna be myself,

And I want you to know, I am my hair



I’ve had enough

I’m not a freak

I must keep fighting to stay cool on the streets



WATCH:





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The Difference Between Lust and Love

The Difference Between Lust and Love: "

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As a psychiatrist, I've seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. The brain in this phase may be much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the area that 'lights up' (becomes active) when an addict gets a fix of cocaine is the same area that 'lights up' when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction. Also, in the early stage of a relationship, when the sex hormones are raging, lust is fueled by idealization and projection -- you see what you hope someone will be or need them to be -- rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all.



In my book 'GUIDE TO INTUITIVE HEALING' I discuss the difference between lust and love as well as techniques to enhance sexual wellness. Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy -- it often dissipates when the 'real person' surfaces. It's the stage of wearing rose-colored glasses when he or she 'can do no wrong.' Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love. However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate pure lust from love.



Signs of lust:



You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.



You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.



You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.



You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.



You are lovers, but not friends.



Signs of love:



You want to spend quality time together other than sex.



You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.



You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.



He or she motivates you to be a better person.



You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.



Another challenge of sexual attraction is learning to stay centered and listen to your gut in the early stages of being with someone. This isn't easy in the midst of hormones surging, but it's essential to make healthy relationship decisions. Here are some tips to help you keep your presence of mind when you're attracted to someone. This needn't pull the plug on passion, but it'll make you more aware so you don't go looking for trouble.



Four negative gut feelings about relationships:



A little voice in your gut says 'danger' or 'beware.'



You have a sense of malaise, discomfort or feeling drained after you're together.



Your attraction feels destructive or dark.



You're uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you're afraid that if you mention it, you'll push him or her away.



Over the years, I've spoken at women's prisons and domestic violence centers. My talk, 'How Listening to Your Gut Can Prevent Domestic Violence,' focuses on showing women how to identify and act on their inner voice. The gut senses a potential for kindness and violence. Many women who'd been in abusive relationships admitted, 'My gut initially told me something was wrong -- but I ignored it.' The pattern was consistent. They'd say, 'I'd meet a man. At first he'd be charming, sexy, sweep me off my feet. The electricity between us was amazing. I'd write off the voice in my gut that said, 'You'd better watch out,' as fear of getting involved. When later the abuse began, I was already hooked.' Some gut instincts though, are anything but subtle. On a first date, one woman landed in the hospital with an IV, retching from 'psychosomatic' abdominal pain. But did that stop her from seeing the guy? No. From these women we gain a real-world lesson: no matter how irresistibly attractive someone appears, close attention to your gut will enable you to see beneath exteriors.



It's so much nicer to be involved with someone your gut likes. Then you're not always guarding against a basic suspicion or incompatibility. You must also give yourself permission to listen to your gut when it says, 'This person is healthy for you. You are going to make each other happy.' To be happy, take a risk, but also pay attention to the warning signs I presented. This allows you to wisely go for the fulfilling relationships you deserve.