Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
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LILY ROSE DEPP LOVE MAGAZINE COVER HD WALLPAPER 1920 X 1200
LILY ROSE DEPP LOVE MAGAZINE COVER HD WALLPAPER 1920 X 1200
Lily-Rose Melody Depp Actress Lily-Rose Melody Depp is a French-American actress and model. She is the daughter of American actor Johnny Depp and French singer Vanessa Paradis. Depp is featured on her mother's album Bliss. Wikipedia Born: May 27, 1999 (age 16), Paris, France Height: 1.6 m Parents: Vanessa Paradis, Johnny Depp Aunts: Alysson Paradis, Christi Dembrowski, Debbie Depp Siblings: John Christopher Depp III
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| LILY ROSE DEPP LOVE MAGAZINE COVER HD WALLPAPER 1920 X 1200 |
Lily-Rose Melody Depp Actress Lily-Rose Melody Depp is a French-American actress and model. She is the daughter of American actor Johnny Depp and French singer Vanessa Paradis. Depp is featured on her mother's album Bliss. Wikipedia Born: May 27, 1999 (age 16), Paris, France Height: 1.6 m Parents: Vanessa Paradis, Johnny Depp Aunts: Alysson Paradis, Christi Dembrowski, Debbie Depp Siblings: John Christopher Depp III
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Wednesday, April 16, 2014
TIPS : Here's How NOT To Write A Love Letter
TIPS Here's How NOT To Write A Love Letter:
A love letter is one of the most personal messages you'll ever write, and writing one is a lot easier than you might think.
Your first step is to give up your fear. You are the undisputed authority on what you want to say in this message--don't let yourself be shut down by preconceived notions of what a love letter should be. A love letter doesn't have to be poetry, it doesn't have to be about hearts and flowers, and it doesn't have to be sappy. Be yourself, and write about real things that matter to you.
So far so good, yes? But what exactly do you say? Here are some suggestions: the moment you first realized you loved her, how your life has changed since you first got together, how you have changed as a result of loving him, some physical characteristic of his that you love, something about her that makes you grateful, or something she said that you will never forget. Nothing is too small to write about, if it means something to you. Try writing about a shared memory that's special to you both; it doesn't have to have been a romantic occasion or a life-changing event to mean the world to the two of you. If you share something simple and sincere, your letter can be something that your love will treasure forever.
These dos and don'ts can help:
Do...
Don't...
Laura Brown is the author of How to Write Anything: A Complete Guide [W.W. Norton & Company, $35.00].
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| TIPS : Here's How NOT To Write A Love Letter |
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| TIPS : Here's How NOT To Write A Love Letter |
Your first step is to give up your fear. You are the undisputed authority on what you want to say in this message--don't let yourself be shut down by preconceived notions of what a love letter should be. A love letter doesn't have to be poetry, it doesn't have to be about hearts and flowers, and it doesn't have to be sappy. Be yourself, and write about real things that matter to you.
So far so good, yes? But what exactly do you say? Here are some suggestions: the moment you first realized you loved her, how your life has changed since you first got together, how you have changed as a result of loving him, some physical characteristic of his that you love, something about her that makes you grateful, or something she said that you will never forget. Nothing is too small to write about, if it means something to you. Try writing about a shared memory that's special to you both; it doesn't have to have been a romantic occasion or a life-changing event to mean the world to the two of you. If you share something simple and sincere, your letter can be something that your love will treasure forever.
These dos and don'ts can help:
Do...
- Take your time. Writing a love letter is too nice a job to rush.
- Share your real feelings. This is no time to be shy.
- Write in your own everyday voice--your reader wants to hear your voice, not an imitation of someone else's.
- Give some thought to how your reader might react. How well do you know him or her? Are you declaring your love for the first time, or are you both so in love you're walking on air? Don't spoil the spontaneity, but make sure what you write seems appropriate to the level of your relationship.
- Remember to say "I love you"!
Don't...
- Don't worry that you're "not a good writer." You're as good as you need to be!
- Don't say anything you don't mean. It's easy to go over the top when you're writing a love letter. Be sure you're being honest to yourself.
- Don't be afraid to say silly things. If you love the way she slams the car door or the way he chops vegetables, say so.
- Don't be creepy. If you're writing to someone who doesn't have any idea how you feel, don't go overboard describing your feelings and your desires.
- Don't put it in an e-mail. This is love we're talking about, for heaven's sake. Invest in a nice card or writing paper, and write it out by hand. A love letter is a kind of gift--make it a tangible object they can slip under their pillow, save in their wallet, or otherwise treasure forever.
- Don't chicken out! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Laura Brown is the author of How to Write Anything: A Complete Guide [W.W. Norton & Company, $35.00].
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Thursday, November 24, 2011
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Thursday, November 03, 2011
WOW - 5 Ways To Avoid Divorce
5 Ways To Avoid Divorce:
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From time to time, I post about what makes for a happy, long-term marriage or partnership. In the past, I've written about the importance of sharing similar interests, having complementary skill sets and even how much you smiled in photographs when you were younger.
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From time to time, I post about what makes for a happy, long-term marriage or partnership. In the past, I've written about the importance of sharing similar interests, having complementary skill sets and even how much you smiled in photographs when you were younger.
But lately, I've stumbled across some interesting new research on the topic which I thought I'd share.
Here are five ways to avoid divorce:
1. Be thrifty. A recent study of 1,734 married couples revealed that couples who don't value money very highly score 10 to 15 percent better on marriage stability and other measures of relationship quality than couples where one or both are materialistic. According to Jason Carroll, a professor at BYU and the lead author of the study, materialistic couples exhibit "eroding communication, poor conflict resolution and low responsiveness to each other."
2. Work (especially wives). Ironically enough, feminism has also been very good for marital health and stability. At least according to Stephanie Coontz, a scholar of history and family studies who has written extensively on marriage in the United States. In her book, A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s, Coontz argues that the changes that Betty Friedan and other feminists of her time agitated for have actually been good for marriage. The divorce rate has fallen and actually tends "to be lowest in states where more than 70 percent of married women work outside the home," Coontz reports. What's more, "The specialization into separate gender roles that supposedly stabilized marriages in the 1950s and 1960s, actually raises the risk of divorce today." Working outside the home, says Coontz, is also good for a couple's sex life.
A recent study from the Pew Research Center also aserts that working wives are beneficial to marriages. This study showed that shifts within marriages -- specifically, men taking on more housework and women earning more outside the home -- have contributed to lower divorce rates and happier unions. One couple found that just shifting their traditional gender roles each summer did a lot to strengthen their marriage.
3. Spend time apart. More counter-intuitive wisdom. I think that some couples make the mistake of thinking that the true sign of a happy couple is wanting to do every last thing together. Wrong. Yes, it's important to have a lot of over-lapping interests. But, as I've noted before, you also need to keep a private space -- a room of one's own, as it were. This is the main message of Iris Krasnow's new book, "The Secret Lives of Wives", which is based on interviews with more than 200 women from different educational, social, and economic brackets, all of whom are in long-term marriages (15-plus years). In addition to sex (see below), many pointed to the importance of prolonged separations from their spouses as crucial to making these partnerships last. The reasoning? Physical distance makes women more emotionally and physically self-reliant and also (surprisingly, perhaps) enhances communication between partners.
4. Have sex. Just make that sure you don't spend too much time apart. According to a recent article on The Huffington Post, there are more than 17,000 people who identify with "I Live In a Sexless Marriage" on the Experience Project. But if recent surveys are correct, the author speculates that this number doesn't even come close to the actual figure, which she estimates as closer to 20 million married Americans. Moreover, couples who are dissatisfied with their sex life are more likely to consider divorce and/or term their marriage "unhappy." D.A. Wolf certainly hit a nerve when she posted on the importance of sex within a long-term relationship on the Huffington Post's Divorce vertical last weekend. Have a gander at the comments section. Wowza.
5. Do small, recognizable actions. I was absolutely fascinated by this interview in Slate with New York Times health blogger Tara Parker-Pope about her book For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage. In it, Parker-Pope reveals that a lot of research shows that the main determinants of happy, sustained marriages are actually small, tangible things like having have at least five small positive interactions (touching, smiling, paying a compliment) for every negative one (sneering, eye rolling, withdrawal), the presence/absence of sleep problems, how you treat your partner during the first three minutes of a fight, and my own personal favorite: how you recount your own "How We Met" narrative. Phew. At least I have that one covered.
Here are five ways to avoid divorce:
1. Be thrifty. A recent study of 1,734 married couples revealed that couples who don't value money very highly score 10 to 15 percent better on marriage stability and other measures of relationship quality than couples where one or both are materialistic. According to Jason Carroll, a professor at BYU and the lead author of the study, materialistic couples exhibit "eroding communication, poor conflict resolution and low responsiveness to each other."
2. Work (especially wives). Ironically enough, feminism has also been very good for marital health and stability. At least according to Stephanie Coontz, a scholar of history and family studies who has written extensively on marriage in the United States. In her book, A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s, Coontz argues that the changes that Betty Friedan and other feminists of her time agitated for have actually been good for marriage. The divorce rate has fallen and actually tends "to be lowest in states where more than 70 percent of married women work outside the home," Coontz reports. What's more, "The specialization into separate gender roles that supposedly stabilized marriages in the 1950s and 1960s, actually raises the risk of divorce today." Working outside the home, says Coontz, is also good for a couple's sex life.
A recent study from the Pew Research Center also aserts that working wives are beneficial to marriages. This study showed that shifts within marriages -- specifically, men taking on more housework and women earning more outside the home -- have contributed to lower divorce rates and happier unions. One couple found that just shifting their traditional gender roles each summer did a lot to strengthen their marriage.
3. Spend time apart. More counter-intuitive wisdom. I think that some couples make the mistake of thinking that the true sign of a happy couple is wanting to do every last thing together. Wrong. Yes, it's important to have a lot of over-lapping interests. But, as I've noted before, you also need to keep a private space -- a room of one's own, as it were. This is the main message of Iris Krasnow's new book, "The Secret Lives of Wives", which is based on interviews with more than 200 women from different educational, social, and economic brackets, all of whom are in long-term marriages (15-plus years). In addition to sex (see below), many pointed to the importance of prolonged separations from their spouses as crucial to making these partnerships last. The reasoning? Physical distance makes women more emotionally and physically self-reliant and also (surprisingly, perhaps) enhances communication between partners.
4. Have sex. Just make that sure you don't spend too much time apart. According to a recent article on The Huffington Post, there are more than 17,000 people who identify with "I Live In a Sexless Marriage" on the Experience Project. But if recent surveys are correct, the author speculates that this number doesn't even come close to the actual figure, which she estimates as closer to 20 million married Americans. Moreover, couples who are dissatisfied with their sex life are more likely to consider divorce and/or term their marriage "unhappy." D.A. Wolf certainly hit a nerve when she posted on the importance of sex within a long-term relationship on the Huffington Post's Divorce vertical last weekend. Have a gander at the comments section. Wowza.
5. Do small, recognizable actions. I was absolutely fascinated by this interview in Slate with New York Times health blogger Tara Parker-Pope about her book For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage. In it, Parker-Pope reveals that a lot of research shows that the main determinants of happy, sustained marriages are actually small, tangible things like having have at least five small positive interactions (touching, smiling, paying a compliment) for every negative one (sneering, eye rolling, withdrawal), the presence/absence of sleep problems, how you treat your partner during the first three minutes of a fight, and my own personal favorite: how you recount your own "How We Met" narrative. Phew. At least I have that one covered.
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Monday, October 31, 2011
Gee - Why Doesn't Anyone Date Anymore?
Gee -Why Doesn't Anyone Date Anymore?:
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Fifty years ago parents wrung their hands wondering what to do with their daughter who was 'going steady' with her high school sweetheart. Back then, parents encouraged their daughters to see many boys, correctly believing that this would provide experience with a wide array of relationship styles, promoting better choices of a life mate. Behind that rationale, however, lurked a hopeful belief that seeing many casual suitors would keep their daughters chaste. The practical goal of society's dating strategy was to get Susie to the altar, if not as a virgin then at least not as a mother-to-be.
The '60s sexual revolution, and the widespread availability of the birth control pill, changed all that. Now that girls could say 'yes' as well as 'no' to sex without the threat of unintended and often unwanted pregnancies, parents squirmed realizing their little princesses could be experimenting sexually with several boyfriends, none of whom she may marry. The face of dating changed.
Today, parents are relieved if their daughters hook up with only one partner. In the effort to keep our girls safe, we settle for fidelity if not virginity. Sadly, the double standard still informs our decisions about sex and dating -- boys get a free pass (if not a wink and a nudge) about early sexual activity while girls juggle labels of 'slut' (those who put out) and 'bitch' (those who do not). Saddest perhaps is the trend for very young girls to provide sexual favours (usually oral sex) for multiple boys while receiving little or no sexual pleasure themselves.
Dating seems to have disappeared from our cultural landscape. People now define as single or partnered/married. Rarely do we hear that someone is playing the field or dating several people. The sex-negative message from half a century ago trumpets a different answer to the question of mate acquisition, but it is no less damaging. We hear routinely of new couples assuming sexual exclusivity after they have had sex but before they know much else about each other -- an 'all your eggs in one basket' approach. Not surprisingly, most of those couples emerge some months later disillusioned and believing they will find true love in another lover, not in another system.
The opposite of single is married, not dating. Dating and marriage should feel different from each other. Why are we so quick to abandon the freedom of choice dating offers, replacing it instead with lightning-quick courtships and instant sexual exclusivity? Do we still believe that sex is so potent, so dangerous, that we dare not play with it? Haven't we grown beyond the 'kisses are contracts' stage? Have we been so silenced about negotiation and communication that we settle for any relationship that affords us sexual gratification? Moreover, if that is true, how much talking could be going on within that relationship regarding how sex can best be expressed and enjoyed?
Surely we can do better if we define dating as an enjoyable process in which we learn about potential partners by trying them on for a good fit. We need not limit ourselves to exclusivity with each one to whom we are sexually attracted. We are willing to shop endlessly for a new car or home, yet couple far too quickly once we establish a sexual liaison. Responsible, compassionate sex should be an adjunct to the process of coupling, not the prime reason for doing so.
There is an old saying: "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the handsome prince (or princess)." How much happier we would be if we used sex as but one of the many criteria upon which we base our coupling decisions.
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Fifty years ago parents wrung their hands wondering what to do with their daughter who was 'going steady' with her high school sweetheart. Back then, parents encouraged their daughters to see many boys, correctly believing that this would provide experience with a wide array of relationship styles, promoting better choices of a life mate. Behind that rationale, however, lurked a hopeful belief that seeing many casual suitors would keep their daughters chaste. The practical goal of society's dating strategy was to get Susie to the altar, if not as a virgin then at least not as a mother-to-be.
The '60s sexual revolution, and the widespread availability of the birth control pill, changed all that. Now that girls could say 'yes' as well as 'no' to sex without the threat of unintended and often unwanted pregnancies, parents squirmed realizing their little princesses could be experimenting sexually with several boyfriends, none of whom she may marry. The face of dating changed.
Today, parents are relieved if their daughters hook up with only one partner. In the effort to keep our girls safe, we settle for fidelity if not virginity. Sadly, the double standard still informs our decisions about sex and dating -- boys get a free pass (if not a wink and a nudge) about early sexual activity while girls juggle labels of 'slut' (those who put out) and 'bitch' (those who do not). Saddest perhaps is the trend for very young girls to provide sexual favours (usually oral sex) for multiple boys while receiving little or no sexual pleasure themselves.
Dating seems to have disappeared from our cultural landscape. People now define as single or partnered/married. Rarely do we hear that someone is playing the field or dating several people. The sex-negative message from half a century ago trumpets a different answer to the question of mate acquisition, but it is no less damaging. We hear routinely of new couples assuming sexual exclusivity after they have had sex but before they know much else about each other -- an 'all your eggs in one basket' approach. Not surprisingly, most of those couples emerge some months later disillusioned and believing they will find true love in another lover, not in another system.
The opposite of single is married, not dating. Dating and marriage should feel different from each other. Why are we so quick to abandon the freedom of choice dating offers, replacing it instead with lightning-quick courtships and instant sexual exclusivity? Do we still believe that sex is so potent, so dangerous, that we dare not play with it? Haven't we grown beyond the 'kisses are contracts' stage? Have we been so silenced about negotiation and communication that we settle for any relationship that affords us sexual gratification? Moreover, if that is true, how much talking could be going on within that relationship regarding how sex can best be expressed and enjoyed?
Surely we can do better if we define dating as an enjoyable process in which we learn about potential partners by trying them on for a good fit. We need not limit ourselves to exclusivity with each one to whom we are sexually attracted. We are willing to shop endlessly for a new car or home, yet couple far too quickly once we establish a sexual liaison. Responsible, compassionate sex should be an adjunct to the process of coupling, not the prime reason for doing so.
There is an old saying: "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the handsome prince (or princess)." How much happier we would be if we used sex as but one of the many criteria upon which we base our coupling decisions.
Thursday, September 08, 2011
Why Can't Men Love Like Women?
Why Can't Men Love Like Women?:
I was having one of "he can't connect emotionally" conversations. A friend was telling me about her relationship angst over his inability to understand her needs and to talk about his. Even though I'm in research and not therapy, as a psychologist, I get that a lot.
As I listened, a question occurred to me: is she confusing love with the expression of love? In so doing, was she subjecting her perfectly warm and loving significant other to a test he was bound to fail?
Maybe ... men just love differently. To jigger the famous line from Sex and The City; it's not that he's not into you, it's just that the expression gets hung up in the netting of a woman's expectations of expression as proof of existence.
Current research confuses the issue -- particularly the study by Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, whose study of 5,000 American adults found that men are becoming more interested in commitment and attachment, and women are more interested in relationships that allow them a degree of independence.
One might assume that a shift toward commitment and attachment might create a slipstream that would pull along more open and demonstrative emotional communication.
It's an assumption that runs into some formidable limitations imposed by biology. There is more at work here than too many Clint Eastwood movies.
University of Pennsylvania neuroscientist Dr. Ruben Gur says that the same way men and women have different bodies, they have different brains -- with eons of evolution creating distinct wiring. It goes well beyond the formative impact of testosterone and estrogen.
It's a matter of how we're built, he says, not what we learn. And he has the brain imaging to prove it.
Other studies elaborate on the biological link to male-female communication styles. Men are wired to act during times of high emotion, since emotion can lead to violence; there is a shut-off mechanism. He stops talking -- just when women, wired entirely differently, want to talk.
As reported on the Web site Uncommon Knowledge, there may actually even be survival instinct at work. It takes longer for a man's blood pressure and immune system to return to normal after high emotion than it does for a woman.
Research, the site reported, also found that boys were faster to turn off a recording of a baby crying than girls. Simple insensitivity and impatience? Actually, the boys reacted to the crying with a higher release of stress hormones. Boys are more fragile than girls medically and emotionally. Boys are more susceptible to birth defects and developmental disabilities; they are more vulnerable in the womb, with more fetuses lost in miscarriage. As children, they are more easily stressed, which means they cry more when they are upset and have a harder time calming down. And they are more emotionally vulnerable to the ill effects of extreme lack of affection.
Then, too, there is the documented fact that elderly men are much more likely to die after losing a partner than are elderly women.
Such findings point to some serious irony. All these insensitive men are actually more reactive to emotion than women, so they are genetically programmed to avoid it.
This biological Venus-Mars dynamic -- and confusion -- extends beyond the precincts of romantic love.
In my research for my recent book, I found that this confusion extends beyond romantic love. A number of women said they had worked hard to create an emotional connection with their fathers, but failed. Yet, when they described the relationship and the level of interaction, it is clear their fathers cared about them very much.
All of that begs the question "Can't we all just get along?" If we have an appreciation that we are products of our wiring, it should be possible to logically override the programming, and simply give each other what we need.
Psychotherapists know well it's not that easy. One of the many challenges in couple's therapy is that both halves of the couple want "validation" that each partner experiences the other's emotional state, and sees value in the experience. The problem is that means taking an excursion into the head of the other person. Women are often fine with that -- welcome it. Men often don't want their deepest feelings valued -- much less experienced -- by anybody. If knowledge is power, what could be more powerful than knowing somebody's innermost feelings?
For women hungry for the emotional growth of their partners as measured by communication of feelings, it could be an uphill journey, pushing against the great big boulder of biology. When the other signs are good -- reliability, kindness, attentiveness and the rest -- it might mean coming to terms with the fact the love is there, it's just expressed in ways that will be clouded by the mysteries of the male gender.
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I was having one of "he can't connect emotionally" conversations. A friend was telling me about her relationship angst over his inability to understand her needs and to talk about his. Even though I'm in research and not therapy, as a psychologist, I get that a lot.
As I listened, a question occurred to me: is she confusing love with the expression of love? In so doing, was she subjecting her perfectly warm and loving significant other to a test he was bound to fail?
Maybe ... men just love differently. To jigger the famous line from Sex and The City; it's not that he's not into you, it's just that the expression gets hung up in the netting of a woman's expectations of expression as proof of existence.
Current research confuses the issue -- particularly the study by Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, whose study of 5,000 American adults found that men are becoming more interested in commitment and attachment, and women are more interested in relationships that allow them a degree of independence.
One might assume that a shift toward commitment and attachment might create a slipstream that would pull along more open and demonstrative emotional communication.
It's an assumption that runs into some formidable limitations imposed by biology. There is more at work here than too many Clint Eastwood movies.
University of Pennsylvania neuroscientist Dr. Ruben Gur says that the same way men and women have different bodies, they have different brains -- with eons of evolution creating distinct wiring. It goes well beyond the formative impact of testosterone and estrogen.
It's a matter of how we're built, he says, not what we learn. And he has the brain imaging to prove it.
Other studies elaborate on the biological link to male-female communication styles. Men are wired to act during times of high emotion, since emotion can lead to violence; there is a shut-off mechanism. He stops talking -- just when women, wired entirely differently, want to talk.
As reported on the Web site Uncommon Knowledge, there may actually even be survival instinct at work. It takes longer for a man's blood pressure and immune system to return to normal after high emotion than it does for a woman.
Research, the site reported, also found that boys were faster to turn off a recording of a baby crying than girls. Simple insensitivity and impatience? Actually, the boys reacted to the crying with a higher release of stress hormones. Boys are more fragile than girls medically and emotionally. Boys are more susceptible to birth defects and developmental disabilities; they are more vulnerable in the womb, with more fetuses lost in miscarriage. As children, they are more easily stressed, which means they cry more when they are upset and have a harder time calming down. And they are more emotionally vulnerable to the ill effects of extreme lack of affection.
Then, too, there is the documented fact that elderly men are much more likely to die after losing a partner than are elderly women.
Such findings point to some serious irony. All these insensitive men are actually more reactive to emotion than women, so they are genetically programmed to avoid it.
This biological Venus-Mars dynamic -- and confusion -- extends beyond the precincts of romantic love.
In my research for my recent book, I found that this confusion extends beyond romantic love. A number of women said they had worked hard to create an emotional connection with their fathers, but failed. Yet, when they described the relationship and the level of interaction, it is clear their fathers cared about them very much.
All of that begs the question "Can't we all just get along?" If we have an appreciation that we are products of our wiring, it should be possible to logically override the programming, and simply give each other what we need.
Psychotherapists know well it's not that easy. One of the many challenges in couple's therapy is that both halves of the couple want "validation" that each partner experiences the other's emotional state, and sees value in the experience. The problem is that means taking an excursion into the head of the other person. Women are often fine with that -- welcome it. Men often don't want their deepest feelings valued -- much less experienced -- by anybody. If knowledge is power, what could be more powerful than knowing somebody's innermost feelings?
For women hungry for the emotional growth of their partners as measured by communication of feelings, it could be an uphill journey, pushing against the great big boulder of biology. When the other signs are good -- reliability, kindness, attentiveness and the rest -- it might mean coming to terms with the fact the love is there, it's just expressed in ways that will be clouded by the mysteries of the male gender.
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Saturday, May 14, 2011
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Thursday, January 20, 2011
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Jan 17, 2011 - With Valentine’s Day approaching, Victoria’s Secret Supermodels Adriana Lima, Candice Swanepoel, Erin Heatherton and Lily Aldridge talk crushes, love and how to express those three little words. Don’t be shy. Create your perfect valentine at VictoriasSecret.com/LoveMe.Sexy Snaps: Adriana in Bloom
Jan 17, 2011 - Supermodel Adriana Lima gets pretty & playful with petals at the photo shoot for Victoria’s Secret’s new Love Push-Up.Create Your Own Victoria’s Secret Valentine Card
Jan 17, 2011 - This Valentine’s Day, sweeten someone’s day (or night)! Create a sexy, flirty, or sweet card to send to your sweetie, your bestie, or even your Bombshells. Then enter the Love Me Sweepstakes for a chance to win a getaway for two to Napa Valley, or one of 50 gift cards valued at US $250. Start sharing the love at VictoriasSecret.com/LoveMe.recent videos
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